Burning Bloggers

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Burning Bloggers

by la_spice @ 2008-07-11 – 18:54:15

Right let's try and understand what makes bloggers burn their blogs?

I'm sure we've all lost friends without warning and been left wondering if they're OK and that's primarily why this Blog was started.

Some bloggers slip away quite gently without a ripple on the Blog Sea whilst others choose to go in full "Titanic" style causing tidal waves and aftershock.

Perhaps those of you who have been "Blog Burners" in the past might be able to give the rest of us some insight. We'd like to hear from you - in particular:

a) what went through your mind at the very moment you hit that destruct button?
b) do you regret doing it?
c) was it a knee-jerk reaction?
d) any other comments/reasons/explanations etc........

Finally if you do decide to leave BCUK please think about the friends you leave behind and let them know you're OK.

Thank you.

Marian
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- MrFlighty
- 2008-07-11 @ 19:31:15
They certainly seem to have little consideration for their friends, and anyone else who had commented on any posts, when they delete, or stop, without warning. There can be few who haven't been able to do that, and they don't seem to think, or don't care, about anyone else.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:42:49
  That's basically what I feel. Call me old-fashioned but I think it's down to manners and respect (mutual and self).
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- cj592 ^Pro
- 2008-07-11 @ 19:42:32
What would make me burn my blog? I try to keep everything work related to friends only, but if people at work were to find this blog, I would have no choice but to burn it
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:40:33
  That's understandable but I'm sure you'd have the grace to let us know.
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- rithompson
- http://www.flickr.com/photos/rithompson/
- 2008-07-11 @ 19:48:08
I've only "burnt" posts, and occasionally a blog I rarely use anyway!
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:43:25
  I can understand that!
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- jackfrost ^Pro
- 2008-07-11 @ 20:20:51
hebburndelboy has burt his!!
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:44:15
  Yup - and the "Black Pearl" it seems!
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- technomist
- 2008-07-11 @ 20:33:00
Its a mild form of attention seeking maybe?
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:45:13
  That's always a possibility - especially with the "serial blog burners"!
  - - GilraenH ^Pro
    - http://www.gilraen.blog.co.uk
    - 2008-07-12 @ 10:37:09
    I agree. It's a way of getting attention - they are usually back very shortly so that they can come back to a rash of lots of sympathetic comments- 'hi, I'm glad you're back', 'oh, poor you'. Gives them an ego boost. Ultimately quite pathetic though.
    - - la_spice
      - 2008-07-12 @ 10:52:23
      It seems such a waste of everyone's energy!
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-07-11 @ 20:51:10
I have to admit I came close to burning my blog recently because of the rash of negative posts. It was becoming an extremely negative place to visit and I was walking away in a bad mood. It has vastly improved in the past days.

Some people come here to follow others and burn quickly when stalking becomes tiring.

Some people need constant attention and when they don't get it, a blog burn is their final bid for getting some. It usually fails.

Some just get tired of blogging or just don't have time, but they usually go out with some grace, or just take a break.

Some need to start an uprising in everything they do and they hope not only to burn their blog and make some sort of misguided statement, but get others to do the same.

Some have inflated opinions about who they are in this world, and go elsewhere only to become a small fish in a big pond. Others just feel like they don't belong something that is their issue not Blog UK's.

Sometimes I create and burn experimental, new idea blogs but my main one is always here.

These are just some observations I have made, some based on personal opinions and some based on experience with some people.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 20:59:55
  Many thanks - that's very useful.
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2008-07-11 @ 21:08:26
Just my thoughts. I feel bad when people burn blogs that I have known. Some are a great loss like James. Some have beautifully creative blogs and it's a shame to seem them go as they don't know their own value.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 21:10:54
  Exactly my feelings - this blog started as a direct result of James' departure.
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- PrincessFiona
- 2008-07-11 @ 21:36:44
I think its better to let everyone know "why" and leave else others get worried.

And its always lovely to keep in touch over emails if not on blog
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 21:48:05
  Exactly!
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- tylluanpenry
- 2008-07-11 @ 21:51:49
I'm genuinely sorry when people burn their blogs... especially when there's no warning. If I wanted to finish blogging I'd like to think that I went online first and explained what I was doing, why and at least thanked those who had taken the trouble to read my blog.

I'm always very touched when people read my posts and comment on them, and I'd hate to just cut them out of my life.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 21:56:06
  Yes that's the way I look at it!
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- adamantixx
- http://trifledreamz.blogspot.com
- 2008-07-11 @ 23:32:32
i'd never burn my blog because i've put so much of myself into it and its been wonderfully therapeutic to me as a very welcome distraction/escape from the daily grind.
if i ever needed a break or just couldn't think up anything more to say then i'd do a post explaining my planned absence.
it would be nice if people said goodbye before blowing themselves up! x
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-11 @ 23:43:55
  I totally agree with you - thanks for your imput
  - - isadora101
    - 2008-07-14 @ 16:49:12
    I too agree with Seany.
    I am continually amazed that anyone bothers to make comments on my little ol' blog so if I were ever to give up blogging it would be very discourteous not to at least give a little explanation as to why!
    - - la_spice
      - 2008-07-14 @ 17:08:51
      Exactly - it's things like this that makes or breaks the BCUK Community spirit.
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- xmillyxxx ^Pro
- 2008-07-12 @ 00:50:33
I don't think i would just 'up and leave' as to say ...cos so many people on here have made me laugh,smile and even cry at times... i would have to say goodbye before leaving.

I couldnt burn my blog as i like to look back and see how i was and what i was doing back then!

I think it's selfish when people burn and run...as we are left wondering where they have gone!!

xx
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-12 @ 06:06:31
  Thanx Milly
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- I_Am_Xenon ^Pro
- 2008-07-12 @ 01:22:17
I once came close to burning my blog. But then I realized that doing so would be something I couldn't reverse if I later changed my mind. So I kept it.

Still, every time the number of Friends I have goes down, I find myself wondering who and why... did someone drop me from their list, or did they delete their account (thus vanishing from everyone else's Friends list)?
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-12 @ 06:08:01
  It does hurt when that happens
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
- 2008-07-12 @ 02:02:46
I don't know what has happened to this lastest blog burning. Bit of a mystery
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-12 @ 06:11:11
  I know - everyone was having a great time and joining in the fun It made a nice change from all the despondency.
  
  I've just started a new blog to try and rescue the spirit.
  
  Please join us here:
  
  http://goodshiplollipop.blog.co.uk/
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- davij ^Pro
- 2008-07-12 @ 03:19:44
.. to let friends know you're leaving, is the graceful thing to do! I agree with you 110%, unless of course because of a
justified reason one couldn't really do so!

...some friends just stop blogging with no warning, then come back as if it didn't matter - it doesn't feel the same again
for some reason.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-07-12 @ 06:13:43
  You're right
  
  Anyway we've just got a new "ship" together and need some on board entertainment. Why don't you join us?
  
  http://goodshiplollipop.blog.co.uk/
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- antlady69 ^Pro
- http://antmusic-forever.blog.co.uk
- 2008-08-29 @ 06:03:32
Good post, and good comments.

I just tried to see if old email addresses I have for James and Nate Nathan Nathanael (remember him?) still work - but they don't. Too bad. I would like to know how they're doing now.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-08-29 @ 06:23:10
  Thank you - Nate the cartoonist??? Please keep me updated and send my love to James
  - - antlady69 ^Pro
    - http://antmusic-forever.blog.co.uk
    - 2008-09-09 @ 05:32:12
    Yes, Nate the Cartoonist. Sadly, neither James' nor Nate's email addresses still worked, the emails were returned as "undeliverable".
    
    I wonder if some (still active) bloggers still have contact with any of the bloggers who've left?
    - - la_spice
      - 2008-09-09 @ 07:44:01
      If I recall Nate was going abroad - I think?
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- gordon (Visitor)
- 2008-09-05 @ 13:12:23
I burn my blogs every so often, because someone doesn't like me. I've done blogs under lots of different names to try to get them off me. I've not had anything for a while now, and I just re-arrange my blogs now, to make them think that I'm no longer blogging. Plus there's the fact that I'm a complete and utter fruitcake, off my rocker, a nutter, which doesn't help either. Cheers..
- - la_spice
  - 2008-09-05 @ 13:21:02
  Thanks - whoever you are!
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- Doralene
- 2008-09-15 @ 11:38:01
I left my last blog site because my family found it; and it wasn't set up to be able to do private or friends only posts. I ended up burning my blog at my last site because my brother told me if I deleted the whole thing, they would leave me alone. He lied; they didn't and I had burned it for no reason. I had so much tied up in my old blog that I actually cried for days after deleting it. I did try to start up another blog there under a new name and it was never the same (apart from the fact my family kept harassing me). Funny I can't even remember what attracted me to BCUK, but here I am, and I love it
- - la_spice
  - 2008-09-15 @ 13:42:52
  I'm glad you're here and feel "relatively" safe
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- lledeb
- 2008-10-10 @ 20:46:05
This is one thing i feel bad about on my facebook. They deleated my account, so as far as all the friends i had on there know I just did a runner.
- - la_spice
  - 2008-10-10 @ 20:58:09
  That's a shame - the Blog Break Blog seems to work quite well but I guess some new bloggers might not know about it. Perhaps I should try and publicise it again???
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